The Greek word eros denotes ‘want,’ ‘lack,’ ‘desire for that which is missing.’ The lover wants what he does not have. It is by definition impossible for him to have what he wants if, as soon as it is had, it is no longer wanting. This is more than wordplay. []…] Eros is an issue of boundaries. He exists because certain boundaries do. In the interval between reach and grasp, between glance and counterglance, […] And it is only, suddenly, at the moment when I would dissolve that boundary, I realize I never can. […] His thoughts turn toward questions of personal identity: he must recover and reincorporate what is gone if he is to a complete person.